I think I know now why people stay in abusive relationships.  It’s the thought that nobody will love you the way you want to be loved.  It’s the thought that he alone can give you what you need.  It’s the thought that he alone understands you.

The problem with psychological battering is that, unlike being physically abused, there are no tell-tale marks.  No cuts, no bruises, no marks left to be seen.  Everything’s all in your head.  He feeds on your insecurities.  He pounces on your weakness.  He tears up all your defenses slowly and constantly.  Imagine having a solid wall in front of you.  Sure a man with a hammer can’t possibly break that down with a few strong hits.  But what if he does this every single day, ramming that hammer on your wall?  Eventually, there will come a point where it will break.  And you’ll be left with this gaping wall, vulnerable to each attack.

It seems really stupid to fall for someone who does nothing but hurt you.  But things never start that way.  In the beginning, he would shower you with attention.  Give you everything you ask.  Help you patch your life when things get sucky.  Sooner or later, he starts giving these "helpful" advices more often than asked.  Sooner or later, he starts with the criticism.  Sooner or later, the insults, nicely veiled in the spirit of wanting the best for you, starts coming.  sooner or later, that's all you ever get to hear. 

It’s easy to say, break it off.  It’s easy to say, you don’t let people treat you like dirt.  The thing is, you don’t usually realize what’s really been happening until you’ve sunk in waist-deep; and by that time, it’s harder to break away.  I’m not saying it’s impossible.  But it’s very hard.  It takes a strong person to get out of such alive, much less unscarred. 

First step is the realization that you are in a horribly messy relationship and you need out.  Unfortunately, that’s the easy part.  Everything that comes after is harder, if not almost impossible for those with weak impulses.

is there anyone out there

cause it's getting harder and harder to breath

-harder to breath, maroon 5